With an estimated 40% of adult male world population affected by premature ejaculation, it is perhaps small wonder that many marriages are crashing or merely surviving on ‘life support.’ However, unknown to many men, premature ejaculation can be easily cured using the same human tool that causes it.
Premature ejaculation, simply put, is the release of semen from the turgid male organ shortly after intromission and well before the female spouse has climaxed or reached orgasm. Through researches on men with this type of male virility challenge, it has been confirmed that the release of semen is usually between 1 – 2 minutes after insertion and, of course, the female partner is left sexually unfulfilled.
Apart from reasons of reproduction, the sexual act is meant to be enjoyed to the fullest by both husband and wife. Wives, whose husbands suffer from this male virility condition are usually unhappy and nag at the husband for no just cause. Often times, this is also the root cause of transferred aggression to her colleagues in the office and even her kids at home. The release of sexual pleasures, fun, fantasy, emotions, images and dreams from her subconscious has repeatedly been blocked by the non performing husband and this has now built up into a ‘worrying and stress’ time bomb waiting to explode at the slightest provocation.
The world is usually sympathetic to the plight of the wife as friends and relatives will subtlety encourage the wife to seek sexual fulfillment outside the marriage, especially, as is often the case, when couples fail to discuss their sexual issues. But people easily forget to empathize with the husband whose ego has been bruised and who sees himself as a failure. Under the facade of male ego and ‘’It is a man’s world’’ mantra, the husband continues to suffer in silence. To all intents and purposes, male virility issues and sexual or erectile dysfunction are potent causes nowadays for marriage break-up or infidelity.
Causes Of Premature Ejaculation (PE)
A number of reasons have been adduced, from internal factors - such as sugary or carbohydrate-rich diet, alcoholic substances, nicotine-rich substances like cigarettes, drug abuse and diseases such as hypertension, diabetes, typhoid fever, pile or hemorrhoids etc - to external factors like stress, nature of job and the environment. For me, this type of male virility challenge is caused by a hybrid of both factors: 70% external and 30% internal. Yes, sufferers need to avoid a diet rich in sugar and salt as these usually activate the glands faster and hormones including adrenalin are released into the blood. Based on my personal experience of this problem and the control method used to solve it, I am convinced that PE is purely a psychological problem and does not represent any known lesion in the brain or nervous system. Once you can control your mind and its thinking-process, the internal causative factors become far less problematic to deal with.
Types of Premature Ejaculation
There are 2 types of premature ejaculation:
1. First Round Ejaculation (FRE): Here, the male sufferer releases semen immediately he enters his female partner in the 1st round of sex. But, after relaxing awhile for the blood rush to recede and gradually come back, he is able to get his act together and can maintain the sexual act for a long time in as many successive rounds of sex as possible. Although this is still better than the second type below, it is nonetheless time wasting and the female partner might just get turned off after a disappointing 1st round.
2. Total Premature Ejaculation (TPE): As the name suggests, the male victim cannot maintain the sexual act for barely more than 1 to 2 minutes in each successive rounds of sex. It is almost akin to the dreaded weak or loss of erection male virility problem which can cause a marriage to be childless. In both FRE and TPE, the couple can have kids, but the Sexual Response Cycle (SRC) is characterized by an abysmally low curve especially for TPE.
Controlling Premature Ejaculation
Following years of teenage masturbation, I later discovered that I could not satisfy my girlfriends until the second or third round of sex as I would always ejaculate immediately after intromission in the 1st round, and at times, in both 1st and 2nd rounds. I stopped masturbation when I got married, but the problem still continued and it was not until after my first child (and three years into my marriage) that I was finally able to control this male virility challenge based essentially on the discovery of the ‘Mind Desensitisation To Sex’ method explained below. You don’t need the use of drugs, special diet or male virility enhancements.
Stop Masturbation: Although there has been no direct link of teenage masturbation to pre – and post marital premature ejaculation, we must however not forget that teenage masturbation is done in secret and so, FEAR becomes a factor. When it now comes to doing the real thing with your wife and because the years of prolonged teenage masturbation has conditioned the mind to associate sexual activity with fear, adrenalin is quickly released into the blood stream and the male organ and premature ejaculation happens - even while trying to get the pants off!
A common characteristics of men who had indulged in prolonged teenage masturbation is the instantaneous occurrence of a rock solid hard-on even when they only see the picture of a naked woman. It needs no gainsaying what would happen if insertion were to happen next – Premature Ejaculation! Like Pavlov’s dog that was conditioned to salivating even only on hearing the bell, prolonged masturbation also conditions men’s mind to Pre – insertion arousal and ejaculation.
Communication Is Key: Couples must never shy away from discussing their sexual problems together and finding a lasting solution. The basis or foundation of marriage is communication and everything under the sun affecting them must be discussed. In my case, I knew I had a problem, but it was not until my wife dejectedly and exasperatedly expressed in bed one night that she wasn’t enjoying sex with me until the 3rd or 4th round that I knew I had to get a solution fast for my male virility challenge.We worked around many options, from using aphrodisiacs to late-night bathing before entering the bed, but none was as effective as the mind desensitization to sex method. The Mind Desensitization to Sex method works because this type of male virility challenge is a mind thing, and so, by consciously removing sex related images from the mind before and during sex, the affected man is able to gradually control the problem.
Desensitizing The Mind To Sex: For this to successfully work for you (as it did 100% for me), you must identify and list out only those things that stimulate or prepares your mind for sex. As a man, do you like the lights to be put off, no music or TV and everywhere becomes silent or you like to see your wife undressing first etc, etc. Next, you must now make love with your wife with all these conditions reversed – Put on the lights, put on the radio or TV, be the one to undress first etc, etc. Let your mind be completely relaxed and not focused on sex. Let your mind intermittently say the following words ‘’I am the boss in my office. I take responsibility for those under me and also my actions and inactions’’
When you try this out, you will first experience a numbing of your mind and body to sex whilst you have a slow or reluctant, sustainable hard-on (instead of the usual ‘red-hot and smoking’ hard-on, but which fizzle out upon intromission). Spend a lot of time on slowly fore-playing and caressing your wife’s vital areas, but she must not touch any of your own vital areas, in particular the male organ. As a rule, you will only enter her when calls out for it. From the beginning to the end, let your mind be on the TV or on the radio. Of course, nothing remotely related to love making must be shown on the TV or discussed on the radio.
As a FRE or TPE sufferer, you are hyper charged for sex hence you do not need any other inducement to aggravate the condition! Also, your body positioning during sex matters as there must not be any pressure on your male organ – No aggressive sex of any sort during this 2 – 3 months control period! If these drug free, cost free and natural steps are rigorously adhered to and practiced at least 4 times in a week, you will begin to see positive results after the first 30 days. That is, by the second to third month – whether you are a TPE or TE male virility case – you will be able to maintain the sexual act long enough for your wife to experience orgasm – yes, even in the ‘fearful’ 1st round! No more frustration and time wasting in bed! No more telling of bedtime stories to your wife of how Chelsea Football Club defeated Manchester United when, in fact, you are supposed to be giving her a night to remember in bed
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